At first and above all else, the unexpected arrival of the quarantine meant for Justina’s life only one thing: interrupting the assisted fertilization treatment to which, with a few pauses in between, she had been dedicating
all your energy
for ten years. However, with the passing of the weeks, mandatory isolation became for this 41-year-old woman
an opportunity as challenging as it is unique
, which led her to “stop looking at the obligo” to focus on others. Not only did she find a desired balance in the personal and family, but she was able to devote time and desire to a mission that had always called her, but that had something relegated:
give a hand to whoever could
“The treatments make you focus a lot on you and even though I always kept helping, I did it more mechanically,” says Justina, who lives in the northern part of the province of Buenos Aires. Cooking is one of his passions and during the quarantine to prevent the spread of COVID-19, he decided, among other activities,
for whom the current context hits hardest. “Empathy” is the first word that comes to mind when you think of the past few months. As part of the
call that LA NACION made to its audience
who is leaving the pandemic, she decided to tell her story.
“I forgot about the others, I am focused on myself.” That certainty, Justina assures, was presented as a revelation. An educational psychologist by profession, he maintains that helping has always been part of his DNA. He collaborated with dining rooms in the Villa La Cava, in Beccar, and his house was characterized as a collection point for donations. “With the treatments, that had stopped. With the pandemic, it was like opening my eyes again. I realized that I had to be well first to be able to help those who need it,” he reflects. And he adds: “I learned to get out of myself, from ‘my subject’, taking care of being well, of those I love and helping.
reconnect with others
, value the affections that were always there but took for granted, express it and have more empathy. ”
Risottos, stews with vegetables and meat, potato cake, are part of the menu that, with dedication and thinking that they are as nutritious as possible, is dedicated to making. In addition to collaborating with dining rooms, he began to bring food to people who, every day, “work 12 hours straight, exposing themselves to take care of all of us”, such as medical and security personnel and those who clean the sidewalks. “Food is an excuse for, taking all precautions, listen to them,
, feelings or just a chat to make time easier, “says Justina.
From collapse to action
During the years of assisted fertilization, Justina lost two pregnancies, four and five months. The last loss, last December, “crumbled in every way.” “There were many years of treatments, studies, visits to doctors, hormones, hormones and a little more hormones, injections, especially a long time and a false sense of control until the world fell apart,” the woman describes. And he adds: “I was about to start a new, stronger treatment, and I already had all the prescriptions for the medication. When the quarantine came, the first thing I thought was:
‘And now what do I do?’
The forced stop made her realize she needed a break. “The first thing was to be physically, spiritually and mentally well, to live in the present, to be grateful for what I have today and the future will be seen”, he remarks. He admits that he never handled uncertainty well and that now he has no choice but to live with that feeling and get the most out of it. “I do not know if at any time I will be able to resume treatment. The pandemic helped me
don’t stay stagnant
in what happened, especially in the loss of the last pregnancy. There is a current problem where I have to take care of myself to take care of others, “he says.
With super-active and healthy parents who, under the threat of COVID-19, became a population at risk, Justina felt the need to be closer than ever, not only to them, but also to her brothers and nephews. “The family bond was always very strong. But now, for example, there was a strong need to accompany, share things, smile. Even now, I look at my nephews with different eyes. Somehow, before I thought that my brothers had what that I couldn’t, “says Justina.
The moment of walking her dog also became an opportunity for her to meet
from their neighborhood, many of whom are alone. “At first I realized that they were trying to match the ride times with mine to meet casually and be able to talk. Now we started to meet at the same time. They told me that it does them good and the truth is that it does me too”, Justina admits with a smile.
He feels that the learning that the pandemic and the quarantine left him will last “for a lifetime”: “Taking care of yourself to be supportive is a wonderful learning experience. With the daily rhythm, one sometimes forgets that, but I
I will never forget it again