LN – Diverse families: “The fact of being two maternal chips is an advantage”

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Mel and Cecilia have been together for 20 years: “We were both of us and our two therapists.” In 2010, they decided to enlarge the family. Credit: Marcelo Manera

Mel and Cecilia have known each other for a lifetime, they lived very close to each other in the center of Rosario, Mel's mother had a clothing store in a well-known shopping in front of Ceci's house, girls skated together in the same square and went at the same year but in different division of a college of nuns.

The two are 36 years old and 20 have passed since, while they were in fourth year of high school and Ceci helped Mel to render Accounting, the relationship took a step.
However, for a decade they didn't tell anyone, “we were both of us and our two therapists, we started therapy because we had to tell someone,” Mel confesses.

As much as it was an open secret, because they lived together, traveled and shared the same group of friends,
today they appreciate the silent accompaniment during that time because they feel that there was a great respect for their surroundings. When they finally started telling him, there was not a person who was not happy. Some even confirmed it already with the wedding card in hand.

The break in its history was given with the approval of the Law of Equal Marriage 2010.

The break in its history came with the approval of the Law of Equal Marriage in 2010, which gave them the push and the framework to tell everyone, plan an unforgettable wedding and after the honeymoon in New York,
knowing that it was going to be his last trip alone, to realize the desire to be mothers.

A superdupla

They decided to use Cecilia's eggs, which was also the pregnant woman,
because they were clear that the only objective was to start a family and their doctor told them that “it would not be easy to have two overstimulated mines at the same time trying to get pregnant.”

With an anonymous donor, at the third low complexity treatment and
after nine dreamed months, Mateo and Fermín were born, “los mellis”, who are 2 years and eight months old. A week later, Cecilia returned to work and it was Mel who took four months of leave in the family business to stay with the boys.


The twins are 2 years and eight months old. Mel and Cecilia say that being two women gives them an advantage when it comes to raising them.
The twins are 2 years and eight months old. Mel and Cecilia say that being two women gives them an advantage when it comes to raising them. Credit: Marcelo Manera

“I always say I don't know what's up with the woman who has twins with her husband. Even though there are super-companion husbands, that 'I'm going to play football every Thursday' doesn't work.
They are two but thankfully we are two women “, says Mel. And Ceci adds: “The fact of being two maternal chips is an advantage, until they need to find a partner and then we will become two mother-in-law.”

The fact of being two maternal chips is an advantage, until they need to find a partner and then we will become two mother-in-law

Cecilia

Throughout the time they kept their relationship secret, Mel was nourished by reading different international blogs about families with two moms. What these couples experienced and the difficulties they faced in the early 2000s not only helped her calm her head but also to think that she wanted to have her own space in Spanish where to make these issues visible.
With that idea, he opened an Instagram account (@unafamiliajuntas) to return everything good that these blogs had given him, to tell stories of other families in different parts of the world and above all, to create a community.

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Hi, welcome! I started with this account in April 2017, a few days after our mellis were born, with the idea of ​​keeping a virtual diary with key moments that we were living as a family. Simple things like the arrival home after the neo, the first bathroom or our first outing together. Thanks to this account, two things happened that I did not take into account at the time: 1.) I met many other families like ours (and I had the luxury of winning new friendships, with which I would like to share more “real life” but I have them far from home); 2.) I learned that the free time of moms of newborn babies (and I don't even tell them if there are two) is very little, and there are always a thousand things to do before sitting down to write. But finding as many families as ours, made me want to build a kind of network, something more global, because the reality is that IN MY CITY I do not know many other families formed by two moms. I am not saying that they do not exist but that perhaps I do not cross them in the places that I frequent. Then taking advantage of the “A Family Together” that I like so much, I decided to create a kind of account / directory, and invite different families to post a photo and tell us a little about their history. In this way, if they are looking for a tribe, they may find other families close to each other but they did not know. I am Mel (@ 73W), from #Rosario, #Argentina and in the next photo, our brief history. Who are you? Where are they? Do you join to participate? I await your photos by DM or using the hashtag #UnaFamiliaJuntas (R) (R). # dosmasmás #dosmamas #familiashomoparentales #diversidadfamiliar #dosmamasenlafamilia #twomoms #yosoLOVEoamor #yosoLOVEofamilas #rainbowfamily #samesexparents #todomejora #amoresamor #itgetsbetter #loveislove #lovewkes #diversity #lovemakes #family

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“Since the beginning of the pre-treatment studies, I never felt out of place, I never felt observed, judged or discriminated against for being 'the other mother',
and that is so important “Mel wrote in the blog where they told the pregnancy step by step.

Next year, Fermín and Mateo are going to start the garden and their moms chose for them a school with experiential pedagogy. “When we went to write them down, the file said: name of tutor 1 and tutor 2.
I felt that the form already welcomed us“concludes Mel.

FURTHER

. (tagsToTranslate) Diverse families: “The fact of being two maternal chips is an advantage” – LA NACION


Publicado en el diario La Nación